Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, uluntu lwezempilo luye lwachwayita ngengcamango yokuhlamba umzimba ngendlela ephilileyo. Kodwa yintoni kanye kanye i-bath yokuhlamba umzimba ngendlela ephilileyo, kwaye kutheni itsale ingqalelo yabaninzi kangaka?
Ukuhlamba ngesandi ngamava okucamngca apho abathathi-nxaxheba bagqunywe ngamaza esandi aveliswa zizixhobo ezahlukeneyo, ezifanaizitya zokucula, iigongkunyeiifolokhwe zokulungisaIgama elithi “ukuhlamba” libhekisa kumava okuntywiliselwa xa ujikelezwe sisandi, njengokuntywiliselwa emanzini. Ngexesha lokuhlamba ngesandi, abathathi-nxaxheba badla ngokulala phantsi ngokukhululeka, bavale amehlo abo, baze bavumele ukungcangcazela okuthomalalisayo kungene phezu kwabo.
Imvelaphi yokuhlamba ngesandi ingalandwa emva kwiinkcubeko zamandulo ezaziqonda iimpawu zokuphilisa zesandi. Namhlanje, oogqirha banamhlanje baye bahlengahlengisa ezi ndlela zamandulo ukuze benze uhlobo olulodwa lokuphumla kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Abantu abaninzi baxela ukuba baziva benoxolo olunzulu kunye noxolo ngexesha nasemva kokuhlamba ngesandi, nto leyo eyenza kube lukhetho olunomtsalane kwabo bafuna ukuphumla kwiingxubakaxaka zobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Kutheni ke ngoko wonke umntu ethetha ngeebhafu ezisebenzisa isandi? Impendulo ikuluhlu lweenzuzo zazo ezininzi. Uphando lubonisa ukuba unyango lwesandi lunokunciphisa ixhala, luphucule umgangatho wokulala, kwaye luphucule impilo-ntle iyonke. Njengoko abantu abaninzi befuna iindlela ezipheleleyo zempilo, iibhafu ezisebenzisa isandi ziye zavela njengokhetho oludumileyo kwabo bafuna ukuphinda badibane nabo kwaye bafumane ibhalansi kwihlabathi elikhawulezayo.
Ngaphezu koko, indlela abantu abanxibelelana ngayo ngeebhafu ezivakalayo yongeza umdla wazo. Abantu abaninzi bayayonwabela amava ahlukeneyo okuphumla nokuphiliswa, nto leyo ekhuthaza unxibelelwano nabanye. Nokuba ungumntu onamava okucamngca okanye umntu omtsha onomdla, ibhafu evakalayo inika ithuba elikhethekileyo lokuhlola amandla esandi kunye namandla aso okuguqula.
imeko yakho yengqondo neyeemvakalelo.
Ukuqukumbela, ukuhlamba ngesandi kungaphezulu nje kokuba yinto eqhelekileyo; yindlela enzulu emema abantu ukuba bazive amandla okuphilisa esandi. Ngoko ke, ukuba awukayizami, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba ungene kweli thuba lithuthuzelayo!
